What people don’t want to admit is that most of them are not much better or worse than average in anything and everything. And, it is very difficult for them to distinguish themselves from others. So, for the vast majority, it is easier for them to pull others down to make themselves “look” better than to actually make themselves better through hard work. But because people have egos and “winners” are treated better than “losers” by society, the temptation to make oneself “look” better than others is irresistable, regardless of how they “get it done.” This leads to very idiotic, destructive and unproductive behavior: Chasing fashion, ostentatious spending, sarcasm, bullying, keeping-up with the Jones, superficial standards, pretentious behavior, and most of all short-sighted thinking and improperly reasoned judgment, which then leads to self-destructive behavior.
However, the fact of the matter is is that the vast majority of people are extremely similar to each other. From a numerical/mathematical view point, if all humans can be categorized from a 0 (zero) — the very worst in humans, e.g., mass murderers, serial killers, child molesters, etc — to 100 (one-hundred) — the very best in humans, the ones with the perfectly rational mind, an unambiguous and clear sense of Justice, and the internal fortitude to act on that mind and sense of Justice at all times — then the vast majority are between a 45 and 55. Therefore, in everyday life, the reality is that we come across people that are only in that 45-to-55 range, almost exclusively.
Before continuing, let me establish, at least roughly, what criteria must be used to judge how an individual should be rated. The only criteria that we should use to judge people are their Six Pillars: Morals, values, ethics, integrity, honor and honesty. Nothing more nothing less. How wealthy, how well-educated, what one’s occupation is (unless it directly reflects their Six Pillars), how physically attractive an individual may or may not be are all irrelevant as are any other standards that are based on superficial or pretentious criteria. Therefore, individuals with Six Pillars that are more rational, Just, fair and robust would rate higher, while people with Six Pillars that are the opposite would rate lower. The whys and the wherefores as to using the Six Pillars as the basis of judgment have been amply spelled out in previous posts, so I will not belabor the point here.
Returning to the main point, if virtually everyone that we meet in our daily lives are but between 45-and-55, it stands to reason that someone that is even between 56-and-60 are exceptional people. Again, from a mathematical view point, the difference between someone that is a 55 and someone that is a 56 may only be 1 point and on an absolute scale only a 1% difference, but on a relative scale, the difference is 10% (1/[55-45]). And, a 10% difference is significant. As we approach 60, the difference is staggering, as it now becomes a 50% difference, on a relative basis. Most of us are unlikely to ever encounter someone higher than a 60.
If you understand the math behind my analysis it should have profound implications for the way you look at and judge people. This means that even what appears to be minor differences in a person’s Six Pillars can be a big deal in distinguishing one person over another. However, because of the minute absolute differences, it is almost impossible for the vast majority of people to distinguish good people from bad people in their daily lives. And, it is this minor absolute difference that separates those above and below 50 that people exploit to make it seem like they are better than they really are.
As an example, let’s take a look at humility. I believe that humility is a great character flaw and a very undesirable trait in any human being, because it is either a lie or stems from ignorance/stupidity — please read a previous post for a detailed explanation. However, society thinks/believes otherwise, and so I will use humility to illustrate my point about manipulation. Most individuals are taught that humility is a good thing and not only blindly follow this rule, but also blindly teach this rule to their children and help brain-wash each other by blindly repeating the rule to others in society. So, how may a 45 make themselves look like a 55? One way is to pretend to be humble. Ironically, for many, it is very easily assumed as the reality of the matter is is that there is no substance behind who they are, and so they can honestly feel humble, which, ironically, raises their stature/worth in the eyes of others. So, by using one of numerous outward cues that illustrate a person’s Six Pillars, some will use the character trait of humility to demonstrate to others that they are better than others. Of course, the reality of the matter is is that these people are really some of the worst people we may come across in our lives.
Equally interesting is the phenomenon of selectively blindness. It isn’t difficult to understand why people do this, but for those that are interested in figuring out who is truly worthy of your association, this section may be of great interest. Selective blindness is the act of witnessing something that is good, but choosing to ignore it, discount it or dismiss it, while choosing to see bad things and criticizing it and turning a blind-eye to bad things that they themselves would do. The vast majority of people engage in selective blindness to protect their own ego and self worth. People want to believe that they are more capable of being good and Just than others, so forget recognizing others doing/being good, most people don’t want to even witness it, because it makes them feel bad that they don’t do good on a routine basis and knowing that others are doing more makes them feel relatively less. This hurts and bruises their fragile ego. The exception is when something is widely publicized and everyone agrees that the act was something truly great. But the recognition of something great that everyone sees as great is also an act of selective blindness in some instances, but I will discuss this later.
Let me give you a very simple example. Few people at a restaurant, especially in coastal cities, will properly recognize the efforts of their wait staff. Next time you’re in a restaurant, see how many times you hear thanks being expressed to the wait staff. I find that it is getting more and more rare. For some reason, it seems to me that the patrons have got it in their head that the wait staff is only doing their job, and they get paid and tipped for it, so what else is necessary? That is hardly the point though; think of it from your perspective. Regardless of whether or not you’re getting paid at work, isn’t it nice to be properly thanked for the job that you do, especially if you do it well? On the contrary, bosses don’t like to heap praise on their best employees, because the bosses are afraid that the employees will argue for more pay or promotions or other rewards. How does that make you feel? Yeah, not too good, right?
So, what does it mean when someone does properly thank their efficient and effective wait staff, in addition to leaving a commensurately appropriate tip? It says a lot about the patron’s Six Pillars. Not only does the patron have the ability to see the truth about the wait person’s job proficiency, the patron is not threatened by the level of proficiency, and recognizes that proper recognition comes in more than one form. Ultimately, it is an act of Justice: Properly recognizing and acknowledging the wait person’s efficiency and effectiveness is Just. The old adage of observing how people treat those around them that are not important to them and using those observations as way to glean insights into people’s Six Pillars is very, very true and effective.
But what about publicly recognized great acts? When people acknowledge these acts as being great, is it about Justice or something else? Let’s take the example of Myles Eckert. As an aside, it is at times like this that I wish I were a billionaire; I would not only give generously to Snowball Express — charity that helps children that have lost a parent to war — but I would find a way to help Myles and his mother. Obviously, Myles’s mother raised him well, and we need more people like Myles and his mother.
So, Myles Eckert did an awesome thing that inspired and motivated the country, and it went well beyond the monetary value. However, do people agree such deeds are awesome because it is or is there something else? Could people be feeling what they do because they’re supposed to? In this case, it isn’t likely, but imagine if somewhat stood up and said, “big deal, so he gave away $20?!” No one in their right mind would do that, but it is precisely because of the fear of the backlash that the vast majority of people will dutifully follow the herd, and never contradict the vast majority of public opinion. So, even expressing praise for a great act made public is, for many, an act of self-preservation, and not necessarily about recognizing and understanding the great act for what it is.
A great example is that of Mother Teresa. The vast majority of people talk about her great sacrifice for humanity and her humble life. Well, you already know what I think about humility, but she made absolutely no sacrifice and made only extremely selfish, but rational (rational in the context of her beliefs) choices. For her the choice was simple, live a frugal life — although later in life there is evidence that her life wasn’t as frugal and basic as we are led to believe — “serve” others and in exchange live in heaven for ALL eternity. That seems like a pretty damn good trade for any Christian. Yet, because the vast majority cannot fathom living the life that she did, they talk about her “sacrifice” and praise her for her “courage” and “service.” This is nonsense. She made a value choice: She traded less for more, at least in her mind. If she is to be praised for anything, it is that she made a rational choice and got more for giving less, i.e., she acted rationally in the context of her beliefs. Yet, people blindly adhere to the “script” that she made sacrifices and is a saint.
The allure of the herd mentality is very strong in the vast majority of people and going against the herd is unimaginable for them. In many examples, their choice to see something or another has nothing to do with whether they are truly analyzing and judging the situation rationally, but hiding in the safety of numbers. I know this to be true, because the vast majority of people will not change their mind about subjects like humility, Mother Teresa and emotion vs. logic regardless of what evidence is presented to them, because I’ve tried. And, you know that the herd mentality weighs heavy on their minds because of the questions or objections that they choose to voice: Who are you to say A, when everyone else says B?, how do you know you’re right?, are you suggesting that everyone is wrong and you’re the only one that knows the truth? You are way too arrogant for your own good!, the rest of us are idiots and you’re the only genius, right?
The funny thing is that when you ask these people to rationally defeat my arguments, not only do they fail miserably, but also will suggest that I’ve wasted to much time and effort thinking about something that which has already been established as an immutable truth. Then they take on an air of superiority, and the look of extreme satisfaction! Cracks me up!
The bottom-line is that based on one’s Six Pillars people aren’t really all that dissimilar to each other in this country. Therefore, even small differences make for very big differences in who is a good person, who is a bad person, and who is a very, very special person. So, the next time you meet someone and you want an honest evaluation of that person, look for small differences and understand that these differences are likely insights into that person’s Six Pillars. And, always see thing for what they are.
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